Intuitive Dating Instead of Mindless Swiping

Dating sites and applications were originally created to make it easier for us to find partners. And in some cases they are really useful. But not always. The main problem is that the vast majority of users of these sites do not act very consciously, turning the search for a soulmate into a routine. In modern psychology a special term has been coined — “dating burnout”.

Today we want to talk about dating burnout, its causes, as well as intuitive acquaintances that help defeat this burnout. We promise you’ll learn a lot of new things.

Dating burnout: causes and consequences

Almost everyone who uses a dating site for a long time and does not succeed is faced with the phenomenon of dating burnout. There are four main causes of burnout:

1. You fail to meet the right partner. This can be caused by excessive requests and expectations, incorrectly or incompletely filled out questionnaires, or even simple bad luck.
2. Dating apps take too much time. It would seem that you used the application for just 10 minutes at breakfast, half an hour during lunch, 15 minutes walking in the park, and a little more on the subway. But in the end, a large amount of minutes or even hours accumulate in a day. For example, in the UK, it was found that single millennials spend more than 10 hours on dating sites. And during the pandemic, this figure became even higher.
3. Dating sites and apps make you become dopamine addicted. The feeling of anticipation of a successful meeting contributes to the production of dopamine. Literally every swipe gives us a little of this hormone of happiness. But over time, the mechanism simply stops working, swipes turn into a routine, and faith in success disappears.
4. You continue to constantly sit on dating sites because of the fear of lost investment. It seems to you that if you do not go on the site for a couple of hours, then you will definitely miss “the one”. So you come back again and again.

Recognizing that you have experienced dating burnout is not difficult. There is a list of symptoms:

• you start treating the dating app like a job
• you lose hope
• you continue to swipe, but do not communicate with anyone
• you communicate with people you don't like
• you go on a first date as if you were going to an execution.

If you're feeling like you're facing dating burnout, it's time to reboot and radically change your approach to online dating. And the best thing is to discover intuitive acquaintances.

Intuitive dating and the best platforms for it

If you want to make online dating more conscious and not turn this process into a routine, then popular services like Tinder, Badoo or Bumble are unlikely to suit you. It is necessary to choose more niche and specific sites, where there are fewer people, but the audience is more serious and purposeful. For example:

• Meetminfulness. This is not exactly a dating site, but rather a platform where anyone can raise their level of consciousness, learn to listen to their intuition and radically change the approach to dating, online and offline.
• Thursday. A dating app that only works on Thursdays. On other days, you will not be able to fully use it. This was done for the sole purpose of not turning the search for a soulmate into a daily routine, and helping users approach online dating more consciously.
• Kippo. An interesting mixture of a mobile game and a dating app. After registration, your virtual character enters a game space reminiscent of the real world. Here you will meet the avatars of other users, chat and spend time together in the virtual world. If you've ever played multiplayer online games, then you will understand how it works. The only difference is that the Kippo app is more focused on meeting new people. But there are also various mini-games here. For example, football, volleyball and hockey.
• Stir. This dating application is focused on a rather narrow audience — single parents. If you're on your own with a baby but ready to start a new relationship, Stir might be the best app for you. The audience here is very loyal and serious.
• Brilic. The key feature of this application is the emphasis on user security and privacy. To register and start using Brilic, you need to verify your account through Facebook. This approach makes it possible to eliminate an uncommitted audience, as well as to exclude fakes, bots, advertising accounts, etc. on the site.

If the format of dating applications does not suit you and you are looking for a worthy alternative, we advise you to explore chat roulette for yourself. It connects random people via video link. You immediately see what kind of person is in front of you, how they talk and behave, how much they are interested in further communication and know whether you want to continue interacting with them.

Among the most popular video chats are Flirtify and coomeet.com/flirtify. The main advantage of such sites is that they are much less likely to cause dating burnout. The reason is that there is no routine. Each meeting in a live cam chat is a new experience, a new interesting conversation with new impressions. Not an endless stream of random photos and profiles that you swipe left and right.

Online video chat is more convenient and practical for modern people for several reasons:

1. It saves a lot of time by not requiring lengthy registration or filling in account data.
2. It can almost completely replace live communication with a person.
3. It helps quickly get to know each other, explore your feelings and understand whether you are ready to develop the relationship in the future.

Every video chat, whether it's CooMeet or Flirtify, gives you the opportunity to take a completely different approach to online dating. And if you still haven’t discovered it for yourself, we advise you to fix that as soon as possible.

Break the dating site routine

It’s important to understand that any repetitive action sooner or later turns into a routine. Even if you are doing what you love, over time it starts to bother you. With online dating, the situation is absolutely identical. Especially if it does not give the desired result.

Try to do your best not to turn online dating into a set of mundane actions:

• Stop making acquaintances "mechanical", make them intuitive and conscious
• Alternate different platforms for dating: a dating site and a video chat roulette
• Try to communicate more via video and less by texting
• Do not communicate on the web for too long, try not to delay meeting offline
• Clearly define your goals for dating on the Internet: just to chat, find new friends, or meet your soulmate;
• Take breaks and days off from online dating, as this will help to catch your breath and get your thoughts together.

Remember that many people experience dating burnout. Especially during a pandemic and quarantine. But you can deal with it by simply changing your approach to online dating. We are sure you can do it, and we wish you the best of luck!