If you’ve embarked on a career as an adult site model and are in the process of bringing up young kids, I’m sure you’ve already raised plenty of eyebrows. It’s not an orthodox decision at best, combining a career that relies heavily on documented sex, and a regular family life that involves morals handed down to offspring. But whatever other people might think, you’ve already made a decision and are sticking with it.

Congratulations aside, it’s time to sit down and think about how you want to raise your child. Would it be in an alternative way, with alternative family rules... or with double-lives in manner of Desperate Housewives’? Here’s a news flash: it doesn’t have to be either.

Take a leaf out of these porn stars’ books: Autumn Haze, Bridgette Kerkove, and Tiffany Minx, among others. Having done so much hardcore porn, you’d think they’d sworn off children for the rest of their natural lives, but no. Bridgette Kerkove has two daughters from a previous marriage, but raising them hasn’t prevented her from still being an active porn actress in a variety of sites. And while I am not familiar with her motherhood methods, I am pretty certain her daughters are living as normal lives as young girls should.

Now, if this is in keeping with how you want to rear your kids, you can come up with ways to reveal to them exactly what it is that you do for a living, and throw in some guidelines of your own. Bear in mind that having your children become “blissfully unaware” of your adult star career, but also having them risk hearing all about it through other people, could prove to be traumatic.

For one, you’re reinforcing the notion that what you do is shameful. For another, leading a double life can make them suspicious, distrustful children with potential relationship problems in the offing.

If you are married, consult with your better half about how to go about giving them “the talk”. Kids of porn stars are an elite lot; are you ready to introduce them to a life that could be rife with ostracization, teasing, or bullying? If you aren’t, perhaps enrolling them in a more liberal school or having them home schooled might be the answer, until such time that they can hold their own with other people their age.

But if you’re willing to bite the bullet, by all means, give them the talk but in a modest, well-thought out manner. The degrees of modesty within your household are all up to you to define, because unless you want to become the Osbournes of porn, you might want to ease up on the vulgar terms and visuals.

Children of entertainers, whether of the adult kind or not, could either be attention seekers or painfully shy souls. For their sake, make sure you provide them with as much childhood guidance and family time as you can to mold them into healthy persons. Regardless of what career they pursue when they come of age.

Lastly, don’t ever think you’re the only one who has to make decisions about this. Always keep in mind that plenty of grown men and women enter the adult biz, whether as pornographic actors, strippers, or escorts, primarily because they have children to support. Forming a support group with like-minded people isn’t farfetched, and you should get more confident once you discover that individuals like you can make the same mistakes, too.