Is your girl faking orgasms? Or for the women, is your man faking them? Don't let your ego immediately dismiss the possibility of this in your situation because studies show that over 70% of women do it, or have done it at least once. Men don't do it as often, but still often enough to be an issue. Does this reflect on us and our sexual function if we are unable to get our partner to the big O? Is there any way to tell if your partner is moaning from the bliss of the intense feelings coursing through their body or is it because they just want it to be over with? These and other questions will be answered as you read on.
Women are very aware of their partner's ego and therefore will go out of their way in many cases to make sure their actions don't negatively impact that man's ego. This is especially the case in the bedroom. This leads many women to keep their dissatisfaction a secret rather than deal with the issue. This is an important concern for men to resolve because problems in bed lead to problems in most areas of our life. As one man said "If you can give a woman the best orgasm in her life, she doesn't care if you live in a box on the street, as long as the box is big enough for both of you to have sex in." The opposite is true as well, even if you have enough money and are one the sexiest men alive, if in the bedroom you can't seal the deal your life will not be a happy one.
For women who are concerned that their man is faking orgasms you likely feel inadequate or in the best case annoyed that you weren't able to satisfy your man; although men rarely do it out of concern for their girl's ego but for other reasons such as fatigue, pain, medication or stresses of life. They are usually rare and temporary however it is just as important that the fakes stop happening.
It is fairly simple to discover if your partner has faked it. Men will in 99.9% of cases ejaculate during an orgasm. If they wear a condom than ask him to take it off or just take it off without asking. Most men will be happy with your act of generosity. However, if they resist than you might have a problem on your hands. It is also important to remember that even if they have a "little orgasm" there will still be signs of an orgasm; look at the tip and squeeze the penis. If no sperm comes out, than it is a fake.
For women it can be more difficult to detect; as most women have become experts at faking it. The moans and groans, even the body motions, can become so perfected as to be undetectable. However there are a few ways. The most obvious way is to listen to her heart. I'm not being a poet here; seriously listen to her heart beat. If it's going 100 miles an hour than you are probably okay. If it's normal or only slightly elevated than you have a faker on your hands. The second thing to notice is the tensing of the body. This can involve arching her back, squeezing her thighs, fisting her fingers, and more. A woman in orgasm loses control of her body and has a spasm type reaction that is hard to fake. These tensions will be so adamantly strong that you should be surprised by your woman's strength. If the tensions are there, but they are weak, you definitely have a faker. Third is to directly ask her and look for signs of a lie, such as blushing, turning her face away or down, and perhaps speaking quieter. In most of the cases she will just fess up, but be on the lookout for these signs just in case she still tries to lie. Last is to look into her eyes and check for dilated pupils. I would venture to say that 100% of women get dilated eyes after an orgasm. This one may be more difficult to check in a completely dark room so leave a night light on just for this reason. There are other less effective ways to tell she is faking such as hard nipples which must be there in a real orgasm, but can also be hard from stimulation or just being cold.
So now that you've caught your partner in the act, how do you proceed? The advice here is to immediately let the other person know that it hurts more to find out that your partner has had to fake with you than the actual act. It makes you feel like the other person can't come to you with an issue as important as sex. If they can't trust you with sex, what other areas have they not trusted you with? Then let the healing begin. Don't mention anything about the faking situation ever again, even as a joke; unless you are suspecting that the faking continues, but then you must again catch them in the act (for this reason I don't suggest that you tell them what you use to identify their fake.) Explore each other's body more; let foreplay become a real part of your sex life. Read books. Ask "does this feel good?" Let them lead you. It is much easier to deal with a problem once it's in the open.
Now that your sexual woes are gone, you can get back to the real deal, enjoying your sex life and making sure your partner enjoys it too. You must always remember that the more you know about something the better you will be at performing that thing. The best doctors know the best procedures. The best computer programmers know the most about computers. The best scientists are the ones that know most about their science. Why do you think sex is different? Read a book. Learn what makes your partner tick and what doesn't. It is time you become the best at sex.
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