The reason for the frequent failures in the fight against any dependencies that people do not know how to draw the image of a desired goal - to where they would like to come. They clearly know what NOT want (in this case does NOT want to drink). It remains an open question, what do they really want? Renowned psychotherapist Richard Bendler told his clients: "The question is not how to quit drinking, but that you are going to do instead of drinking." The answer to that question - the key to building a desired goal.
For some, it is family values, for the other - a healthy life, material wealth, search mental equilibrium, religious pursuit, the road to self-realization ... List all meaningless, because the infinite number of variations.
And what to you is so important for what you are willing to abandon his habitual way of life? What do you sincerely want to achieve? What do you dream? These issues just seem easy. There is an anecdote that illustrates this perfectly.
Morning in his apartment wakes people, it is very bad, but why are bad, does not remember. Suddenly he saw a man who told him:
-- Hi! I genie. Ready to perform tvoja third wish.
-- And what were the first two?
-- Saying they can not, because I met the first, second and your desire was that I canceled all, and you all have forgotten. So, I expect tvoja third wish.
Short reflection, the man said genie:
-- I wish that all women want me.
Jinn clapped in rhythm and went to the graduation. There he stopped and the doors with jeering said:
- By the way, this was the first tvoja desire.
How do I know what we want?
You do not wonder so why people so often do not understand what want? Because of its subject only wish they could call. But could not provide. This means that the desires of their abstract, vague and unclear. Or, in the fairy-tale language, we have to go there, not knowing where to look, and then, not knowing that.
For example, the desire of happiness, love, career, success, prosperity - clean water abstraction. It is just beautiful words that everyone understands in his own way. Agree that all of the above can not see it, touch and try on taste. In other words, to check whether achieve the desired result "goal".
To understand what you mean to all these values, ask yourself the magic question: "How will I know that has become a happy, well-being achieved, success, etc.?" But not raspylyaytes and choose for themselves one point, the most significant , and clarify it for themselves in all details.
Effects "clarify" understand, literally: their desire to submit new image. This can be read rights, some places, events, the subject of the ... But it is image, not just word, name.
Try to dive deeper into this image. More objects of their desire to consider in detail, hear sounds and feel the feelings that accompany achieving your desires.
Look at all whether you like it there. If not, now with the help of imagination you can imagine correct this image to the ideal.
Will be given to you on your faith.
So, we passed the first step and now know exactly why give up many of our habits of life associated with alcohol.
The second necessary step is the willingness to change. Referring to himself: "I will not work!" We programming themselves to failure. For example, in the phrase: "trying to quit drinking!" - Failure has been laid. If you want to achieve something, to try and stop, start to do it!
In addition, we operate much expectations and projections of people surrounding us. Random abandoned the phrase: "We would like to zavyazal, only he is unlikely to get it" - could become a samorealizuyuscheesya prophecy.
If you would like to receive understanding and support from its beginnings near people, they should work together with you and your clearly see their prospects. Keep in mind that people do not know how to read other people's thoughts. Learn about your plans can only surround you. And not only on the plans, but also on how the positive changes in your life will be useful for them.
By the way, this is an important issue, which is better clarified in the very beginning of the road to the goal. I am aware of cases where victory over green zmiem led to the disintegration of families, for example, although the reason was only indirect. When the husband zavyazal alcohol, he had a number of interesting hobbies, a spouse who is not divided. In addition had to abandon the usual communication companies in which a woman was interesting.
Raise anchor!
In psychology there is the notion - anchor. That perception or image that return us to a certain emotional experience. For example, we hear music, under which danced with a favorite girlfriend. So it is understandable that this music stretches from memory a range of experiences - memories, emotions, feelings ...
No anchors may stretch not only memories, but also the desire. It was people at the bus stop, did not want to drink. Then next p-sh-sh-sh-sh-sh-sh-sh (someone with a bottle of beer, opened). A sound-what kind of familiar and ... Uh ...
It was not ... In short, drove home and went to vytrezvitel.
Realizing "magical effect" of such things, you can analyze which of them will start the desire to drink. This may be some places, people, sounds, touches, smells, situations and events, they predstoyavshie.
Scroll in memory, and you probably remember any fines, which came after the desire to drink. Many of these podlenkih yakorkov you certainly can feel free to ditch of his life, except for injury because they have nothing to bear. Why tempt yourself extra time to verify the will and force of character?
Remember that you are continuously moving towards achieving your dreams. Victory over addiction - just one of the tasks that you will be solved along the way. Incidentally, the image of our achievements - that is also an anchor that can stretch from the caches of our domestic resources faith in their own strength, the desire to succeed needed recuperation spirit.
Look around. All that surrounds you: cities, cars, space ships, the Internet and other fruits of human activities - originally born in your imagination. Persuaded?
Then worse attitude to work with his or her own imagination, the dream formiruyte actively using it, and then voploschayte into reality.
Duh rights - the essence of the great. No man is not only the soul but also the body, but because ... Close to the body
The lion's share of the negative feelings, dismally affect on the body and spirit, bring slag and toxins - the dissolution of alcohol products. It is they resemble its owner from the inside of the desire to drink, holding him to be in a position as a light hangover. Rather, it is correct to describe the state as otgolosok hangover. "If such napominalki" you do not need, try to get rid of them.
The means of getting rid of a lot of slag. I personally prefer efficient and to the same free purifying the body - starvation. System starvation lot, and we are still going to tell. Same real nezateylivoy but very effective technique is Paul Bragg. Incidentally, the author of the methodology died in the tsunami waves in a storm when it was ... 96 years! I sincerely advise you to read his book "The Miracle of starvation". Even if you do not intend to starve, and enjoy a charge of forces from its reading.
Do not wait longer exercise their dreams. Start now!
Very soon, you will notice that instead of the fear of alcohol appears indifferent to it. The focus is gradually shifting from "I do not want to drink more" to "drink more" uninteresting.
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