You have been a concern to her. You had a superior value and she was irresistibly attracted to you.
And i am planning to make a outrageous guess here, however , is it that as time went on, you became less and less of a challenge on her?
And could it be that at this moment, you are zero challenge for her? And that she understands if she needed to, at any moment she could easily get you back once more and wrapped around her finger by simply saying the word?
I'm going to be crude at this point, however as you know, to turn to a challenge again you have to show to your ex that her sexuality has no much more influence over you. Think about precisely what it's like when you are stalking her along with unreturned phone calls, voice mails, texting, and emails. And think about what it is like as you keep doing it (as several males do) even after she has told you to halt. You're indicating to the lady that you're a low-value gentleman with no other sexual options.
She will not respect you again until eventually you turn down her sexual power over you. Luckily you might be doing that now by not directly communicating with her.
Be sure you remain 100% strict with your communication cut-off. Usually do not be "friends" with her, since that benefits her with the continuing validation of potential over you while allowing her a convenient excuse to stay broken up. (She reasons that she is enabling you down simple that way, assuaging any guilt she may feel.)
Nevertheless, make sure to keep her locked in with your stuff. Almost certainly a lot of your belongings are at the woman's place, and vice versa. She might even owe you money as well. She could get a good buddy of yours to help ask you if you want all of it back.
The most effective answer to this is "No, not yet." The reason is simply because her possessing onto your stuff (and you possessing onto hers) remains locking the two of you in as well as guaranteeing future connection. You may not want to give her the psychological closure that would result from negotiating your accounts.
For the next 3 weeks, you should totally accept -- and embrace -- the truth that you're an independent person now. Take what took place with your ex-girlfriend and learn from it. You have a golden possibility to revolutionize your life.
