When people are looking for sex, or for a prospective partner, or only to flirt they send all sorts of messages. Some are conscious, but many are unconscious. By becoming a people watcher you can soon tune into the behaviour of folks around you and exploit such awareness to your benefit, whether for profit or to extend your desire in matters of loving relationships or just sex.
Pay attention to women. They have far more courtship gestures, presumably because over the ages they have been obliged to subtly get the attention of males. Even at the present time when women are supposed to be far more prepared to make the running, the majority still seem to prefer to practice what their forbears have done over the centuries, namely to exert a pull on the male by artful gestures.
Let us examine at blushing. This is an apparently unconscious act. In Western culture it seems more acceptable as a preening device for women to blush. However, men who are in awe of an gorgeous woman are also likely to experience the same sensation. When a woman blushes a man is attracted, when a man blushes it is likely to have the opposite effect unless the female is somewhat older than the man.
Then there is standing with hands on hips. In both sexes this pose indicates a eagerness for action. Women will often give emphasis to their sexuality by placing one hand on a hip and thus attract attention to their body. A woman who is endowed with an hour glass shape will often use this to draw the attention of a male. It is as if the female of the species intuitively knows that men are to a large extent visual in their judgement of women and attracting attention to a well formed body will always impress a male.
There are some courtship gestures which are basically female. One of the reasons why hand reading may be so popular with women could be because the action of showing the wrists whilst the palm is being read excites a feeling of well being. This is particularly noticeable if the palmistis a male. It is worth remembering if you are a man that when a woman feels comfortable in your presence, that she will relax, becomes less tense and unconsciously turn her hand so that her wrists become visible. A man will unconsciously pick up on this and become more attentive. Taking her hand at this point is highly effective. Note: Some gay men copy this feminine gesture particularly when smoking by exposing the wrist very observably.
Sexually aggressive females will often roll their hips to exert a pull on men, much to the chagrin of other women in the nearby who find it irritating. But make no mistake; it is very attractive to men. Those women who do it highlight their walking so the pelvic region is most obvious. The male eye is drawn to the area, whereupon the female will gaze from below her eyelids in a most inviting way.
Whether it is a cigarette, wine glass, finger or pen, the unconscious rolling or fondling of that cylinder seems to occur when the female is very interested in the male. She will normally execute it almost unconsciously during one of those occasions when she is looking into his eyes and listening to him chatting about himself.
Generally speaking in Western Culture, women are encouraged to sit diffidently with their legs closed or even crossed. Women will often open their legs somewhat, at times wider, when a man enters the room and they are making a play for his attention.
Most women prefer to be subtle, so with their legs crossed (a female defensive position) they will strongly offset that message by a number of conscious or unconscious ploys.
The basic level is to cross and uncross the legs slowly whilst stroking her thigh directly in front of a man. In a low voice she will speak with him apparently unaware of what she is doing and the volcanic effect it is having on the man.
Or she will imitate the sexual act by seeming to balance her shoe on the end of her foot whilst at the same time thrusting her toes slowly in and out, and allowing the heel to hang in a state of orgasmic suspension. This can be maddening for men, and too much for other women.
When a person is geared up for sexual performance, the muscle tone is high. That is why one of the most successful sitting positions for women seeking to obtain the attraction of a male is the leg twine. One leg is crossed over the other and pressed so firmly that the muscle tone is markedly enhanced. Most women employ this gesture because it has proved itself to be extraordinarily effective. It is also explains the popularity of high heel shoes!
Men too have ways of attracting women, but they have a tendency to be in your face. But do remember if you seek to consciously copy what most men and women do unconsciously that you are likely to be a focus for someone who is only tuned into the fake messages you have been consciously creating, but are not really you, which may prove a recipe for failure.
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