Your spouse is not always the one causing all the problems in your marriage, and it is a mistake to put the blame on them. No one wants to have to change and if you blame someone else, your spouse, for your marital woes then it's much easier for you. But in order to correct the marriage the one who may have to take the blame is you, you may need to work on your attitude and make some changes.
To start to change your perspective will be somewhat difficult at the beginning because you are feeling wounded. But to move beyond the problem will mean taking a new initiative and thinking about all the positive things your spouse brings to your relationship. Applying a positive spin to to all that surrounds your relationship can be a big part of the perspective change you need to begin.
Creating a list of all the good things your spouse has done to make your life better along with their positives in all things will start to turn you around. Read this list regularly to cause reinforcement of the good stuff and the love you feel for them. Having a new perspective will assist in the change you both need to make in the marriage.
Next, discover more alone time, go do a mutually enjoyable activity, hang out, exercise together, whatever it is do it together. Don't sleep apart unless it is a have to situation due to shift work or something similar. This time together in bed is crucial for snuggling and talking about life, not doing this will continue the divisive situation already in place.
By taking the lead and changing your attitude about your marriage can be the thing that helps your spouse see the light also. The steps here are very basic and may seem simple but they will be the momentum to turn your marriage around and not have to go to a marriage counselor. A few small changes are all it may take to have your marriage healthy and thriving.
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