Almost all guys that don't know how to approach girls effectively usually afraid that they'll get turned down even before they make a move, thus they attempt to conceal their true motive by utilizing various "smart pickup lines". While you undoubtedly require something nice to speak about to start a conversation, DO NOT even try to cover your true intention. Perhaps some girls with average appearances may believe that you just approach her to ask where did she purchased her pretty earring/necklace/dress and you wish to purchase one like that for your sister, but a beautiful girl who get approached on daily basis by men who interested in her will immediately realize your true objective.
Attractive girls are approached by men throughout the day so long as they are in a public area. They also receive compliments constantly. This is reasonable since on a first sight, men immediately value a girl based on her face or body, so most of them will follow their instinct and compliment her face or physique. Do not do this; you will be marked as “only another dull guy”. Moreover, you immediately putting yourself on lower social status than her.
What you must do is never try to cover your genuine intention, but at the same time do not walk to her and throw boring compliment instantly. A simple “Hi” is sufficient for opener; she may answer with her own “hi”, after that you can continue with “is this seat vacant?” (while pointing at the seat next to her) or throw a compliment on anything unique about her. Avoid compliment her face or physique, however, you can compliment her accessories, outfit, footwear, hairstyle, etc. If you meet her at her workplace, you can begin with something like “long day?” and such.
You’ll never be an expert on how to approach girls if you don’t know how to choose your target and lower your failure rate. The method is really straightforward: lock your eyes on hers (regardless if she is still not looking at you). Eventually, you’ll have eye-to-eye contact with her; at this point, SMILE; remember to keep it a friendly and polite smile. If she smiles back, it's a good sign; if she quickly detach the eye contact and start looking somewhere else, go find someone else.
Whenever you’ve already had “green light” (she is smiling back), walk toward her and make sure she sees you doing that. Don't suddenly show up at her back, she's going to freak out and you will immediately fall to “stalker” category. When you have arrived (make sure she’s not busy or involved in a conversation with someone else at the moment), preserve eye contact and make sure your body language shows that you are confident and convenient being close to her.
Truth to be told, many guys which have asked me “how to approach girls” possess this difficulty. They push themselves to walk closer, but lose their self confidence and being completely anxious around her. Generally, the signs of this loss of confidence are watching somewhere else while speaking, wrong positioning (she does not even know that you currently next to her), and having hard time to say anything right.
I cannot actually say there is something that can fix that instantly; you must have the “I am not below her” mindset and eliminate “she is out of my league” mindset; the rest is practice over and over. You will be inevitably have unpleasant reactions sometimes, but if you have done the “eye-locking and smile” first, it is very less likely for you to get really unpleasant reaction.
So, how to approach girls successfully? The first thing that you must have is self confidence. Picture in your mind that you are on the same level (or higher) with her and keep eye contact while you have a conversation with her. It maybe difficult at first, but over time, you’ll get used to it.
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